Thursday, March 15, 2012

Pregnant Again!!


*** Written Sunday, March 5, 2012 ***

So many thoughts and feelings are running through my head! And I don't even know where to begin this story! It's such a juxtaposition to have thoughts and words running through my head as I try to sort out my emotions of grieving as I also try to embrace my reality and hope of our future family, because I just found out I'm pregnant.

Yes, that's right. I just found out I'm pregnant!!!

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 For anyone that's curious (and mostly for my personal memory and record) here's the lengthy story of how I finally found out.
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It was Sunday, March 4 when I anticipated starting my period. 

At the beginning of February, I was doubtful and frustrated that I wasn't pregnant yet. I was sure that if it was the plan for Lord to take my son's life because he only needed to come to earth to receive a body, than surely the Lord would send another child soon so that my wants and desires to be a mother could be fulfilled. I had heard of mom's delivering their babies almost exactly a year after they had lost a previous child. That could be me. Surely the Lord would give me that blessing! 

Well, to my disappointment and lack of understanding His will - He did not allow that to happen. 

At one point I almost wanted to give up. Perhaps if we didn't try to conceive, I wouldn't be disappointed that I wasn't pregnant. I, for once, would actually feel like I was in control. But that was craziness, because not being pregnant wasn't the end result that I truly desired. 

I was recently blessed with enlightenment and understanding about faith and truly trusting in God's plan and timing of things (which you can read about here). I had come to grips with the fact that having a family here on earth could take a long time and I was okay with that. 

So finally when that anticipated yet dreaded 28th day rolled around I was ready to accept a 'no' for my answer. I had taken a pregnancy test a few days before and it was negative. I was going to let myself believe it this time and not just hope that it was a "false negative." 

You can imagine my angst when there was no period. Did I miss count days? Is it just late? Is this happening to try my faith even more? 

Feeling really stupid for using my last pregnancy test prematurely, I began texting some friends that I thought might have an extra pregnancy test around. It was Sunday and we don't shop on Sunday, so we weren't about to go to Walmart to get one. No one was replying to my messages. We googled "homemade pregnancy tests" to discover nothing promising, but some people claimed you can put your urine in bleach and it will supposedly fizz if you're pregnant. Before we could try this test, a friend was able to have her husband drop an unused test off at our house.

Trevor and I were in the middle of a weekly planning meeting and I knew I wouldn't be able to focus on it anymore if I took the test. I held out as long as I could, trying to plan our week and talk about our family goals. I had guzzled a ton of water once I found out the test was on it's way and I couldn't wait any longer!



Well...I was left even more mystified than before!! The test appeared to be negative but might have the faintest of lines in the positive area. Could it be? Could I believe it? How could I not get my hopes up?

I decided to try the homemade bleach pregnancy test to see if it would confirm anything. All the bleach proved is that Trevor is pregnant! That is obviously not a reliable test! 

We go to bed still unsure if I'm really pregnant or not. I wake up at 4:30 am, anxious and needing to use the restroom! Of course, I quietly sneak out of the house and head straight to Walmart to buy an overpriced test that won't leave me wondering. I guess I don't need to give a play-by-play from here on out because the picture speaks for itself!



Needless to say I am completely enamored, elated, and excited to be expecting! 

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My decision to release this information so soon is based on a variety of things which I plan to write about in the near future. But mostly I wanted to be able to continue to write freely about my thoughts and emotions as I experience them. No secrets here...

21 comments:

  1. Congrats to you two! I am so excited for you.

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  2. Congratulations, Shelly and Trevor!! November babies are the bomb...or October, whenever this baby gets here!

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  3. So excited for you! What a happy thing for you and Trevor. Hopefully this pregnancy goes quickly and easily and you are holding a sweet little one who is here to stay in a few months! XOXO!

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  4. Hooray! I am so happy for you! Now I'm praying hard for an easy pregnancy and l&d. Healthy baby Fitzgerald, here s/he comes!

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  5. I love that you are telling about your pregnancy so soon! You are just as excited as you were with Luke, so why keep it secret? So happy for you!

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  6. Congratulations! You are obviously delighted, and we are delighted right along with you!! Congratulations!

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  7. Oooh, you did get an expensive test - the kind with the word instead of just a symbol! :) Congratulations! I'm happy for you guys. Hope you're feeling well - I mean I know you're excited, but excitement doesn't completely overcome morning sickness. haha

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  8. Congrats you guys! So excited for you. Sad that you won't be around for us to meet the bundle of joy, but so glad that your prayers are answered! Thanks for all your enlightening thoughts.

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  9. Yay!!! Congrats! And that means that I'll get to see you in your cute pregnancy stages this time =) You were barely looking pregnant when we moved, despite the fact that you were 5 months along. I'm so excited for you.

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  10. Yay Shelley! I couldn't be happier for you! :)

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  11. YAY! So excited for you!!! I had a lot of the same feelings as you thinking well I will get pregnant really fast. I will be taking my new baby to see Logan on his 1st birthday etc. etc. But that isn't how it has happened and I need to accept that. You have so many good words and thoughts of wisdom and I admire that. We should get together sometime! i'd love to meet you! =-)

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  12. That is so wonderful darling!! Congrats! I wish you the best with this pregnancy

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  13. I am so happy for you !!!! Can't wait to give you a hug. We all love you two.

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  14. Congrats!!! I just love the picture at the end :) Wish you and your little family the best!!!

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  15. I'm so excited for you and Trevor! Congrats! Love you lots!

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  16. This is such wonderful news! Prayers have been answered. I can't wait to meet this new little one!

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  17. Congrats! This is wonderful news. So happy for your family!

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  18. I am literally crying tears of joy for you and Trevor, I'm so happy for you both!!!! Huge cyber hugs!!!!!

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  19. So happy for you! And so glad we get to share in your joy with you :)

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